So the New Year is upon us and with that comes the immense pressure of drastically changing something in our lives because we think this will bring us great happiness… plus everyone else seems to be doing it.
Whether it’s to find a partner, lose weight or quit smoking, how often do people stick to these resolutions and how often do these things actually end up causing more stress to us to try and prove to yourself and other people that we are determined and are capable of bettering ourselves.
The truth is ¼ of people give up their resolutions after just one week, whilst fewer than 1 in 10 will stick to their goal by the end of the year. So why do we bother? The issue is people can’t help but fall in love with the idea of wiping the slate clean of all the negatives that they have experienced last year and to magically make this new year trouble and worry free.
Rather than pressuring yourself and obsessing over what’s wrong in your life, why not try and focus your attention on you, your mind and what makes you happy.
Instead of pushing yourself with ‘I must’, enter the new year with zero pressure on yourself. Try to remain positive and open to possibilities. Accept that change is inevitable and you won’t always like it but that’s okay. Most importantly, be patient with yourself.
If you continue to try and set unrealistic goals you will only encourage feelings of inadequacy and failure when these aren’t met. What’s the point of setting the same goals you’ve been trying for years… you won’t get anywhere?
The same old thinking will produce the same old results.
I’m not saying setting goals isn’t a good idea but pressuring yourself to be something you’re not or don’t want to be is a waste of your time . Instead take this time to feel proud of what you have achieved, take note of ways can you improve and simply do the things that make you happy, nothing less.
Here at DCA Recruitment we are not like other high street agencies, we don’t push, we wont pressure you and we won’t give false promises.
If the job you’re in simply isn’t making you happy and you’re debating about finding a new career but you’re not sure where to start, we are here to give advice and help find a role that’s right for you.
If you want a chat or to simply pick our brains about what we do please don’t hesitate to call us on 01483 422212. No cost. Just genuine people who want to help.
By Abbie Foreman